Wow! I honestly feel compelled to write this postbode and save you a lotsbestemming of agony!
Why am I so compelled? While researching for the topic, I read so much misinformation on the web about how to let a friend know you are into hier. The worst is, I have followed this dating advice ter the past, crashed and burned! I will tell you exactly why there is so much misinformation. So read on!
Here is the situation: I know exactly what brought you here & why you are reading this! You have a friend or a best-friend, and at some point ter your platonic relationship, you have abruptly developed feelings for hier.
Now you feel te love, and that feels superb but at the same time you are wondering what to do now?
Have you everzwijn fallen te love with any of your friend?
If you believe 90% of what is written on the nipt, you should just sit down with hier and tell hier about your feelings. So should you do that? NO. DON’T DO THAT.
Here is the cardinal rule, the rule of all rules when it comes to letting a friend know you like hier:
NEVER, Everzwijn TELL Hier YOUR FEELINGS FOR Hier DIRECTLY!
This will instantaneously set you up for hearing the infamous line:
Hold on. Wait a minute you might think now, if many blog posts, forums and wikihow pages say that you should just tell hier, why should I believe you and not them?
Let mij tell you why..
I have done this mistake about Three times with chicks that I wasgoed earnestly into, wasting all my chances to be with them on the way. It took mij a long time to realize that I wasgoed so close & just made a few lil’ mistakes.
Little, but they made all the difference inbetween dating them & spending at least 1.5y ter misery because I wasgoed infatuated with chicks that I wasgoed eyeing every day and had feelings for., but they don’t have feelings for mij!
So why are so many websites providing poor advice?
They give terrible advice, because women write the content. And women will tell you what they would do, or what they think they want, but it’s not truly what they want! Do a ordinary test, ask a lady what you think the best way to do it is, how to get a female to like you? Then ask hier if hier current bf did it that way. A light-bulb goes on!
But I got you covered, read on to know exactly what to do:
1.) Never tell hier your efectivo feelings directly
Do that and it is almost unlikely to get the relationship from platonic to romantic. The only time that might work is when she feels the same way about you. Even ter that case, it is enormously dangerous.
For some reason, women need a challenge. When you tell them directly, you take that away from them, and you all of a sudden feel abate. Never say it!
Two.) Don’t waterput hier on a pedestal
When guys get feelings for a doll, they tend to say things like “You are so beautiful!” or “I am powerless only for you!” with glassy, puppy eyes.
Women loathe that! Don’t waterput hier on some kleuter of pedestal.
Key is building solid attraction. One way to do that is to be playful with hier. So instead putting hier on a pedestal, let hier know how much of a dork she is.
Tell hier that with a sly smile and hug hier after. Tell hier things like:
“You know what, you truly suck! Why do I waterput up with this? I think I only suspend out with you, is because you give mij chocolates sometimes.”
Do it te a humorous way, then hug hier. So she knows you don’t truly mean it. Send hier mixed signals. This will get hier attracted, “You are such a lovely person” won’t!”
Pauze the touch barrier. Get physical! If you are not used to it, do it slow at very first. Touch hier lower back to lead the way.
Touch hier arm, hier gam, hug hier but do something to pauze that barrier! Too many guys make the mistake of making the one significant budge.
They have never touched hier, never made hier feel anything but a friend and abruptly they go te for the awkward smooch or tell hier “I love you!” out of the total blue.
Don’t make that mistake. Always be touching hier more and more, so it feels natural to hier.
This is where 99% of guys plainly liberate! They get so focused with that one lady, they will commence to liberate rente te the other Two.Five billion females on this planet. When you only suspend out with that one woman, she will think that other women are not interested te you. But what for ladies is one of the most attractive traits te a stud is when other women are attracted to him.
Therefore, suspend out with damsels. Talk about it openly with hier. Say how much you loved it or how much you didn’t love it (but don’t tell hier things like “I would have rather bot with you.”) She will see that other females are interested te you and wonder why. She will also feel competition, and healthy competition ter any market, especially the market for your attention, is a marvelous thing!
6.) Don’t be rattled by hier
Another point were 99% of guys fail dreadfully. Spil soon spil they have developed feelings, they get all emotional about the doll. She cancels on a date, they get angry and upset.
I made this stupid mistake back te the days many times. I can still recall a period when I took my best friend at the time, I wasgoed utterly te love with hier, to a Japanese restaurant & she complained gravely the entire evening about the food. Instead of it not letting affect mij, I totally snapped and get angry big time. That is not very sexy to a doll. The guys who are sexiest are the ones that just don’t seem to care.
Getting angry about hier behavior, be it hier flaking or criticizing you, shows insecurities and weakness. She will feel you spil powerless, but chicks want a strong man. When you are certainly not rattled by anything, especially by a chick you are into, that’s when women begin to fall for you like dominos.
Right now, a chick could complain to mij all night long about how awful the food is and how pitiful the place is I took hier to. I would be smiling all the way and making jokes on the way.
It would be unlikely now for hier to upset mij. It’s something else however when somebody is clearly attacking you. Then defend yourself, but do it like a man, without seeming to be affected.
If you are not lightly rattled, no matter what happens to you ter life or what she throws at you, you are unbelievably sexy and attractive to women te genérico. Combine that with humor and a sly smile: you are incontenible!
Everzwijn seen the TV vertoning 24? Kiefer Sutherland here plays a special tuut called Jack Bauer. The character he plays is ruthless, emotionally detached and socially a mess. Yet he is always quiet under pressure, certainly not lightly rattled. He has not much else going for him. Now listen to this:
I have discussed the demonstrate with Trio female friends some time ago and they uniformly agreed to the same thing – when they embarked to witness the showcase, they thought Kiefer Sutherland spil totally unattractive. However, spil the plot developed, they all thought of him spil such a sexy and attractive man! They used words like masculine, strong, determined and sexy. I couldn’t understand this at the time, now I do!
What I have just lain out for you are the basic “Rules of Engagement” when you earnestly want to turn a friend into a paramour. But hey! You will ask your self by now, how do I actually do it?
Here is the best practice for how to tell a friend you like hier:
Use the very first six steps to re-frame your relationship to hier te a more masculine way.
Wait for a ogenblik when the Two of you are alone together, best romantic ogenblik and the Two of you are already close to each other. Then brush away the hair from hier face and look at hier. If she doesn’t flinch, smooch hier!
You indeed have to be patient and time the right uur here. Then, you have to read hier. If it doesn’t feel right for you, don’t do it!
Go back to the very first 6 step and repeat, until she is ready for it!
After you have kissed, and she brings up the “What is that supposed to mean for our friendship?”, just say you felt like smooching hier ter that ogenblik.
Don’t go powerless there and tell hier about your feelings!
Ter case you are not used or experienced with smooching chicks out of the blue, I very recommend smooching hier when you are both a bit tipsy.
This will make it a loterijlot lighter, and if it goes wrong, just blame it on the booze!
Now go and get hier!
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