Look around at all the couples around you, and think of how many of thesis have met each other via online platforms? The number is undoubtedly enhancing each year. With more of our lives being led ter the online spaces, it is no wonder that romance is also finding fresh ways of manifestation.
Bijzonder from Facebook, Twitter, and other popular social media platforms, dating apps are leisurely gaining momentum. Apps like Tinder, Aisle, Match.com, are leisurely bringing online dating to the public spheres. Scouting for a potential mate through dating apps and social media is spil innovative an idea, spil it is dangerous. Wij came across this article recently which listed out ways to stay safe, when engaging te online dating. Some significant tips delineated by this article are:
1. Inform a friend or family member about your date with an online acquantaince.
Two. Have minimal levels of, or no wijngeest on your very first date.
Three. Expose less individual gegevens primarily
Four. Find out spil much spil you can about your date, before meeting them.
Five. Have a phone conversation before a face-to-face meeting
6. Meet at crowded places
7. Don’t take a lift huis.
The opinion for online dating varies with age and other demographics. An article te ‘The Atlantic’ quotes Edward Royzman who is a Psychology Professor at the University of Pennsylvania. Royzman is of the opinion that boys are more inclined towards physical attraction and women on social attraction. The aforementioned are determinants of the ‘swipe’ logic ter the online dating world.
After having cleared the preliminary round of desirability assessment, the dating apps provide a makeshift space for people to talk and make up their mind about sharing individual voeling details. This is not uniform across the dating apps. ‘Aisle’ is one such exception. The man or the woman need to buy an ‘Invite’ and send it to the people they are interested te. If the invite is accepted, by default, the individual voeling details are exposed. Since each invite has to be paid for, Aisle makes the very first round of choosing, very thorough. Every profile has details of most crucial determinants of desirability. It ranges from food preferences, choice ter music, food, reading habits, socializing preferences, profession and pay package. This helps the man and the woman get an overview of what can be expected of the person BEFORE they send the invite. This goes beyond the scope of Royzman’s theory of online dating. However, it is noteworthy that the underlying psyche of boys and women might be superficial perceptions of appeal.
This indicates stunted growth te our expectations from the self and others. This may be the reason why our society has become photo driven and consumerist. Perhaps this is why the contemporary literature borders on existentialism and nihilism (that depicts the end of consumerist road and beginning of purposelessness), rather than proactive and voluntary efforts at holistic self-growth and nurturing the self spil an independent entity.
At Centre for Social Research, wij are strong practitioners of staying safe online, owing to our initiatives #SocialSurfing and Tweesurfing with Facebook and Twitter respectively. Mr Amitabh Kumar, Head of Media and Communications at Centre for Social Research, had this to say “As love finds its ways ter digital spaces, so do frauds, criminals and fakers. Cyber space is a reflection of our society hence similar cautions apply while seeking a playmate on the Internet.” Thus, like with all social media platforms, it is significant that dating apps should also be dealt with cautiously.