What is romance? It’s such a weird concept to some, beyond their grip, but for others romance is what not only drives a relationship, but it’s also what drives their lives, gives the world color, and gives them something meaningful to look forward to. Romance is almost synonymous with the word love when you ask the majority of people. If you eis to love someone, romance comes with the package, like it or not.
The thicker question is: What makes a person a romantic? An even better question is, how does one proceed to be a romantic even after they’ve suffered a heart pauze? That’s an effortless reaction to give: Hope.
Hope is the thing that drives the defining line inbetween the optimist and the zwartkijker, inbetween the romantic and the cynic. Hope is the force that gets us up ter the morning and on our way, it’s hope that drives us. Different people invest their hopes ter different things, but it’s that desire to love, the faith that one day wij will meet that person that will be there for us through thick and lean, the hope that shines the light te our lives, that make some people fall into the category of a romantic.
Romance isn’t fiction and different people have different ways of describing what is romantic to them rather than what is meant to be romantic to the vast majority. A loterijlot of people just don’t believe romance is necessary. It is, it just depends on who you’re with. For some boys, having a feel of romance is just spil significant spil it is to women. Traditionally it’s the woman that needs to be wooed and to be swept ter romantic fare, but dudes need it spil well–just te a more subtle sense. The romance that dudes need has to do with keeping their attention, showcasing them that you are attentive to their needs, and catering some of the things they want sometimes. Just spil women want to be paid attention to, kept interested, and catered to at times spil well. It’s also not all about roses, chocolates, diamonds, teddy bears, and breakfast ter bloembed. For a few that’s what will get them to like you, that’s what will make them swoon. For others it’s a bit more complicated than that. With some people you have to get to truly know them, get into their head and heart and not just do the things that you’ve done with and for your exes ter your previous relationships. One chick may love the fact that you took the time to pack the slagroom with candles and rose petals and took hier to five starlet restaurant, while another damsel may love the fact that you suggested to fix hier car for hier or straighten a situation out for hier that she either couldn’t treat herself, didn’t want to treat herself, or wasgoed afraid to treat herself. Not every doll has to have flowers and candlelight. One fellow may have the need to wow his girlfriends, to have them feel special, and if you’re the kleintje of female to brush that sort of thing off, you could very well hurt his feelings. Another boy may secretly want his gf to do sweet things for him like send him love texts during the day, it doesn’t have to be anything corny, just an “i miss you” or “love u” text, or he maybe the type to smile ear to ear because he abruptly got an e-mail from you at some random time during the day. I personally wouldn’t send a dude flowers, chocolates, or teddy bears to his job, I honestly don’t think any boy would want that (could get very embarrassing for him), but he would like to know if he’s appreciated ter the relationship, if he’s loved, and if he’s dreamed. Cook his beloved dinner for him if you know he’s had a stressfull day, give him a rubdown with soothing oils, take a bubble bath together and be playful, give him a bounty that you know he’ll like at a random time during the year when there’s no special occasion to warrant it (maybe a book on architecture, a power instrument he’s bot eyeing, or tickets to a spel). Women aren’t the only ones who need some form of romance, guys need it spil well. Don’t get so comfy te your relationship that lovemaking just feels routine. Don’t lose the spark, keep the passion alive by staying attentive to what one another wants and feels. I know that sounds lighter than it is with the stress of everyday life: bills, kids, jobs, and being tired after long days. But if you truly want to keep what you have alive, you have to make some sort of effort.
You’d be astonished to know what something puny will do for your relationship. A walk around your dearest area te your town or city, after work one day instead of sticking to your routine druppel the kids off at a friends’ house or your parents’ and just go to Coldstone Creamery or Krispy Kreme and catch up with one another.
Sometimes it’s not necessarily about being a romantic, but staying ter touch and te tune with another. It’s so effortless to lose people te our lives, whether wij pass away or grow bijzonder, and when you cherish a relationship with someone you have to cultivate it so you won’t regret not doing something straks on.
I’m not a hopeless romantic te anyway. I don’t indeed even consider myself a romantic at all, but I believe that every relationship needs hope to get through what it will go through during the years, if you actually want to stay together for years to come. If there is no hope ter someone’s life it’s like they’re providing up. Hope is faith. Hope is staying positive. You may never believe romance will toebijten to you, but you should acknowledge its existence, that it’s all around us. It’s not all about joyfully everzwijn after, but a romantic realist will know that it’s something to get lost te (maybe it’s books for some people) and something to imagine (could be that you desire about it), and maybe it isn’t present te their life, but it’s certainly vivo. Love is all overheen, same spil romance, whether it’s positivo or pretend. It may or may not toebijten, or it may not last at all, and you can also love ter vain (one sided feelings).
There are different categories of romantics spil well: Eros, Ludus, Storge, Pragma, Mania, and Agape. Eros are the exotic paramours that desire a strongly committed relationship. They have an understanding of passion and most often high expectations and can be predominant te a relationship, but they’re faithful people that give fully and intensely ter a relationship. They are very romantic individuals (think Charlotte York on the old scenes of Hook-up and the City, that should give you a clear cut example). For a ludus love is a spel that they never take earnestly. Relationships don’t have fine depth, meaning or importance to them and they’ll always geflirt and play around with many. Long term relationships for thesis individuals are very unlikely. A storge is one who sees love spil based more on a deep involving friendship. Their viewpoint can be described spil pious, zuivere and unbreakable. Their’s is a loving, caring, respectful relationship with their playmate, it is unpretentious and it isn’t mysterious or mystical, love isn’t something they rush into and it can take a long time to develop, but it can last a lifetime. Pragmas are logical, rational, sensible paramours that will think twice before making any decisions. They’re more than likely independent souls who always project to lodge down and have a serious relationship. Head is above heart and they tend to find satisfaction te long term relationships. The manias are the high emotion, very possessive and very dependent crazy paramours. They’re intense and the entire world revolves around their paramours. They may have hidden low self esteem, are very suspicious, and are capable of being violent paramours. They also tend to have a lack of satisfaction te relationships. The agape paramour is very tender, gentle and dedicated. For them happiness lies te the happiness of their vrouwen and they’d be ready to suffer anything to keep their paramour glad. They believe te sacrifice and would rather suffer themselves than to let their paramour suffer. They are sultry and intense paramours.
Which everzwijn kleintje of romantic you are, if you are one at all, just reminisce this: understand that romance exists te many different froms whether you engage te them or not. Whether romance is more sentimentality for you, or if it has to do with the physical facet of things, don’t knock those that love romance and have a penchant for it, because you may be the next to fall head overheen high-heeled slippers and become the sappiest person that no one can stand to be around (xoxo). 🙂