1. One word: Oma.
Before I met my beau&rsquo,s mom, I thought his endearing timeliness answering hier phone calls and questions wasgoed just him being a good son. After meeting hier and becoming familiar to the ways ter which Korean mothers expect, I realized my beau&rsquo,s compliance with his mother&rsquo,s wishes were to avoid certain death.
My beau is a grown 36 year-old man who lives fearfully of his own mother. She is nothing but sweet and happy-go-lucky&hellip,usually. But if he is too busy to run an errand for the family or if he passes up on a higher-paying job, wij all better make a run for it before getting an earful.
That being said, Oma is the most generous woman and is just about the best cook on the planet. If you have an Oma te your life, consider yourself fortunate.
Two. You can&rsquo,t hold your liquor.
I love a good time spil much spil the next gal, but after dozens of rounds of drinks and seemingly endless bottles of soju, I&rsquo,m just about ready for my profundo. Somehow, tho’, I always persevere.
Koreans now how to party. They&rsquo,re the only people I know that can hold down a full-time job, work 70 hours a week, and still party almost every night of the week.
My bf tells mij he&rsquo,s a glutton for penalty. I&rsquo,m commencing to believe him.
Three. You&rsquo,ll need a kimchi fridge.
The only downside to kimchee is the way its pungent, fishy smell permeates the entire house upon opening the fridge. Having a Korean beau means having a jar of kimchee at the ready to accompany any meal. Unless you have a petite kimchi fridge (wij&rsquo,re earnestly considering buying one for outside), get ready for your house to smell &ldquo,distinct&rdquo, every time you fix yourself something to eat.
The good thing about delicious, stinky, fermented kimchee is the fact that it&rsquo,s the most superb of all banchan (side dishes) and makes even the most ordinary meal taste drool-worthy.
Four. You don&rsquo,t want to get spoiled.
Being spoiled is not always a bad thing. He&rsquo,ll foot the bill 90 procent of the time and take you shopping when you complain you don&rsquo,t have anything to wear. Don&rsquo,t think all that doesn&rsquo,t come without a cost, however. He&rsquo,s likely saving his brownie points for leverage. Thought about splitting dish duty? He has other ideas. Life goes back ter time slightly when he expects you to be the domestic queen of his wishes, not-so-quietly reminding you of how spoiled you truly are&hellip,thanks to him.
Five. You&rsquo,re a timid eater.
If there&rsquo,s one thing Koreans love to do, it&rsquo,s eat. I&rsquo,m not referring to any run-of-the-mill meat and potato-type dinners, either. Every time wij sit down to eat, an all-out feast ensues.
You look down at the table and it&rsquo,s packed with crimson leaf lettuce, gochujang, daikon and cabbage kimchi, white rice, marinated kalbi, spicy pork, burn-your-mouth-hot doenjang-jjigae, chapchae, pickled garlic, little anchovies, bean sprouts, and a salt-and-pepper sesame oil dipping sauce. What to do? See Oma spil she wipes gochujang across hier lettuce, piles on some white rice, spicy pork (after dipping it ter the oil, of course) and a lump of kimchi, rolls it up and rigidly shoves it into hier mouth. Now, do the same.
That&rsquo,s just Tuesday night dinner. Get used to eating feasts almost any time you get together &mdash, from Korean barbeque to cold cups of naeng myun on a hot day.
6. You don&rsquo,t cherish family.
Your Korean bf loves you. He pays the bills, and hell, he has even taken you to meet Oma. Even still, a Korean man has priorities and while you&rsquo,re up there, family is always number one.
If he&rsquo,s the oldest son, chances are there&rsquo,s a lotsbestemming of responsibility on his shoulders to take care of &ldquo,family business.&rdquo, He loves his family so deeply that at times it has him running out ter the middle of the night to take care of them. If you don&rsquo,t honor and cherish family spil much spil him, you&rsquo,ll never become part of it yourself.
7. You&rsquo,re just spil stubborn spil he is.
Depending on how observant he is of his Korean heritage, chances are you won&rsquo,t be converting totally to the Eastern way of doing things. Even so, more and more you find yourself eating every meal on the floor, hiding money te the mattress, and eating rice at every meal. If you stubbornly suggest a dining slagroom table and chairs, he&rsquo,ll make you wait so long to get one, you&rsquo,ll eventually give ter and join him on the floor.
8. You don&rsquo,t like cheesy soap operas.
If you thought watching soap operas wasgoed just for women, then you&rsquo,re dead wrong. Korean guys love their soap operas. The thicker the plot, the better. Toeslag points for plots that include family toneelstuk and love stories. I think that covers just about every Korean soap opera out there.
9. You don&rsquo,t have a thick skin.
Korean guys can be a little bossy and controlling, but wij see where that might come from (Oma, perhaps?) Recall how his mom wasgoed the one telling you to &ldquo,Eat! Eat!&rdquo,? Now she&rsquo,s the one telling you to lose a little weight when you begin packing out your clothes. Your Korean boy will likely give you lots of advice you might not want to hear, but ultimately he&rsquo,s always right, dammit. Koreans are pro no-bullshitting communicators, so be ready and inject with a thick skin &mdash, or else.
Ten. You&rsquo,re lazy.
Koreans have super high expectations for themselves and for you. They want to succeed and want nothing more for you to succeed by their side. Having an off-day? He&rsquo,ll let it slide. Let your ambition go out the window because you&rsquo,re having some stupid quarter-life keerpunt? It&rsquo,s not tolerated or accepted. You&rsquo,ll be told to get it together and get back to work.
11. You don&rsquo,t value loyalty.
Sure Korean studs ogle women spil much spil the next dude, but they are enormously loyal. They might even ask you to pick out their garments every time you go on a date. They value their chick&rsquo,s opinion and would never do anything to jeopardize your affections. If you can&rsquo,t value a fellow who will always come huis to you every night, dating a Korean dude just isn&rsquo,t for you. But know that you&rsquo,re missing out.